In my short life as a horsewoman, I’ve been at several barns. A few of them weren’t really my choice, as I didn’t even have a horse yet. They were the barns my trainer was at, so I followed blindly, taking in the scenery all the while.

But as different as each of those barns was, they all had one thing in common…BARN DRAMA. Why is it that when you get a group of horse people together under one roof, there is always the dreaded “drama”? Why can’t we all just get along?

And most of us are guilty of it in some form or another. Whether it’s talking behind another’s back, not taking others’ feelings into consideration, or just generally being rude, it’s always there. True, in most places, there are only 1 or 2 “bad apples” in the bunch, but they usually lead the way to a divided barn eventually.

Am I so naïve, that I would like to think that we could all just be friends? Is it so much to wonder why we can’t all just put our differences aside and be nice to one another? Call me a peacekeeper, but I’m happiest when everyone else is happy. What I wish for all horsey people in every barn out there, is this…

1. Before you get all twisted out of shape about something, think about the “grand scheme of things”. Is your problem really going to matter when you’re pushing up daisies? No? Then let it go!

2. Don’t define people by the color they’re wearing. You have no idea what they’ve been through that day, hour, or minute. If they seem in a bad mood one day, it probably has nothing to do with you. They’re just going through their own troubles, so just be there for them if they need you.

3. Get over yourself! Before you feel the need to get on your “high horse”, think for a moment about how it would make YOU feel if you treated someone the same way. This is probably the most important thing, to me at least. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and ask yourself, “Is this how I would like to be treated?”

Not everyone is going to read this and have an “Aha!” moment, because some people just have a bigger roadblock than others that they still need to get over. And to the rest of us who just want to be friends, when dealing with those kinds of people, I will just leave you with this…

“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, Courage to change the things I can, And wisdom to know the difference.”