By Stacy Bromley Cheetham, MPA

Ever have a super talented horse and think, I’m just not good enough for them? Ever had a friend tell you that the horse doesn’t know that they are talented and that they are missing out on something bigger, that they just want to be fed and loved? Well, I have, and let me tell you, it doesn’t make it feel any better. I’ve got a super talented horse, and I just can’t get excited about her. I’ve totally lost that loving feeling, and it really stinks.

I’m not sure when it happened really. I think that it may have started during all of our trials and tribulations fixing her track feet, or maybe when I broke my foot, or maybe even earlier, when she had to have an entire summer off due to massive allergies. Somewhere in that time frame, I lost the desire to really train, to really ride, and I can’t seem to make it come back. I can’t get excited about going to the barn to ride, and I have come to the conclusion that it is because I’ve fallen out of love with this horse.

How could that possibly happen, you probably think. Better yet, what kind of person says that about their horse? I think that with so much time off, to think and to evaluate, I’ve come to realize that our relationship is much like any human to human relationship, really. The problem is, we both want different things. I want to do the hunter/jumpers and I truly believe this horse is destined for greatness in the eventing or dressage ring. She tells me every time I sit in that saddle. The longer we are together, the more I feel like we are that couple that just won’t face the obvious – that we just are not meant to be.

So what do you do when you discover that your athletic, beautiful, sweet, intelligent, amazing partner isn’t the right one for you? In my case, I think I know the answer. I think the kindest thing that I can do is to let her find the person she is meant to be with, who brings out her full potential and loves her the way she is; really, isn’t that what every woman wants? I’m going to help her find her person, and I’ll check back in with you to let you know how it turns out.